Finding a Healthy Life Balance

As I’m sure you’ve noticed, my presence here on the blog is far from what it used to be.  Less than two years ago, I was able to keep up with writing and responding to five blog posts per week.  That was pre-child.  Since little man was born, I’ve tried my best to keep up with three blog posts per week.  Most of the time when he was an infant I was able to keep up, but as he’s gotten older and more active, its become increasingly difficult to find enough time for it, especially while also balancing the demands of being a full time teacher and a wife to my husband.

I have found it even more difficult since the start of this school year to keep up with my blogging.  Part of my responsibilities as a teacher includes teaching an Advanced Placement course, which adds to the amount of time that it takes for me to grade assignments.  This is my tenth year teaching, my fifth teaching AP, and this school year for multiple reasons has been more taxing on me than recent years have been.  I leave work more mentally and physically exhausted than I have for the past couple of years.

As of this semester my husband is also in grad school, which has added more responsibility for little man to my plate.  While I love my son, the amount of time and effort that it takes to chase an almost two year old around makes for one exhausted mommy, especially on the nights when its just myself and little man.

I love this kid, but boy does he exhaust me!

The point of all this rambling is that something has needed to give.  One of my goals for November is to find a better life-work balance.  Despite my best efforts and intentions, I cannot do everything.  One thing that I think will help me find a more healthy life balance is to eliminate the pressure on myself for routine blogging.  I am so incredibly thankful for all of the opportunities that this blog has afforded me, especially the networking and people that I have connected with online.  However, as many of you know, blogging takes a lot of time and work, and time is something that I just don’t have a lot of right now.  I think that eliminating the pressure to blog X number of times per week will help me right now.  I know that this goes against all of the advice that I have provided about growing a blog, but focusing on your own needs is sometimes more important.

Blogging used to be one of the things that I looked forward to most each day, but often times now I see it as a chore.  Many evenings after getting little man to bed I would much rather go to bed myself instead of sitting down at the computer to write.  It has caused me to get behind on many scheduled blog posts.  Last week I finally wrote one of my September race recaps, and I still have another one to write.  I have a couple of product reviews that are currently sitting on my calendar, but I keep pushing the date back on because I just don’t have it in me to focus on writing them.  I’m hopeful that if I eliminate the pressure on myself that I need to blog X number of times per week that I’ll eventually find the joy in blogging again that I once had.  Right now it feels more like work than anything else.

Is cutting back on blogging going to instantly make finding a healthier life balance possible?  Of course not.  But I think that for me at this point it will certainly help.  This rambling is far from a “I’m leaving blogging entirely” but more so putting down in words how I’ve been feeling.  And now that its in writing, I almost feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders.  I have felt so guilty about not blogging regularly, but hopefully I’ll start to see that guilt fade away now.

QOTD: How do you find a healthy life balance?

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17 Responses to Finding a Healthy Life Balance

  1. kookyrunner says:

    It’s so hard to find work/life balance so I say do whatever you need to do in order to achieve that.

  2. I agree, blogging IS a lot of work. It’s not only writing content (which I find to be the easiest) but also responding to comments, visiting other blogs, and editing pictures. It’s a lot! On top of that, there can be pressure to write and post product reviews and sponsored content. Because of all this we’ve really changed the way we blog over the last 2 years or so too. We no longer focus on sponsored content or doing reviews (unless it’s something we want to review). That can just add to the pressure. Do not feel guilty about not blogging as much. I’ve seen many people cut back over the years. I guess with anything you have to ask yourself “how is this enhancing my life?”. I hope you are able to find some balance so you can do all the things you love to do and still spend quality time with your family!

  3. AJ says:

    Work/life balance often seems elusive to me. I just find a schedule that works and something happens to change it:( I hope you find what works for you:)

  4. Rachel says:

    I used to blog five days a week. Now I toss up a new post three days a week. It’s helped me immensely, but it’s still a challenge. Also, the age of your child really dictates a lot. When my kids were under 2, life was so much easier. Now I’ve got an 8 and 4.5 year old and I feel like I never have a quiet moment!!

  5. Blogging is another job. It’s hard enough to do it with my full time job. I can’t imagine adding a kiddo into the mix. I cut back from 5 posts a week to 3 about 2 years ago, and now, if I don’t have content to post, I don’t worry about it. I just do what I can when I can – it’s all we can do!

  6. the hardest time for me was when my son was right at that age. So much energy and so hard to keep up with them. I was exhausted and I stayed home with him all day! It gets easier 🙂

  7. Wendy says:

    Don’t feel bad at all. I’ve cut back from 4 to 3 days per week, and now I’m struggling with that. Life is complicated and you have to stay on top of your priorities.

  8. Coco says:

    Living comes before blogging, no question! And taking care of yourself is important too. I’m really down to one post a week that I’m committed to, but even that can be difficult sometimes.

  9. I think you need to do what works best for you. I use to blog much more frequently a couple of years ago, but this year, in particular, I’ve found I need to cut way back. Work and family life demands have left very little time. Try not to feel guilty.

  10. Balance is tough, and it’s different for everyone. There’s no way I could have managed blogging when my kids were little (nor would I have wanted to…their attention was more of a priority anyways). I’m dong 3 posts/week, and sometimes that’s a struggle. Last week, I knew my weekend would be crazy so I decided to skip my usual Friday post….and WHEW! It was a relief to not have that hanging over me while I was in Vegas (and I would not have had the time to read/respond/reply to other blogs). Now…I just need to regroup & recharge and get my recap done for Wednesday LOL

  11. Mary says:

    You are a busy woman, your child is only young once, and having your husband in school ups the ante a lot. I remember when my husband had a side project that took up so much time when one of my boys was a baby, it was tough. I hope you find a mix of things that both sustains you and your family and keeps your career(s) going in directions that you find fulfilling.

  12. Juliana Calhoun says:

    blogging is definitely a time commitment. i took a step back from it in March but now am starting to decide I want to blog again as I do refer back to my race recaps for planning. Do what is best for you!

  13. Karen :0) says:

    You have to do what’s best for you and your family! I am in a similar boat and as Brayden grows and develops, each stage presents new challenges and changes. We love hearing from you but don’t feel pressured – write what you can and when you can! Those posts are the most meaningful anyway vs a post just because you had to!

  14. It’s so hard. I love blogging and it’s such a great release for me, but it is also one of the first things to get sidelined when the going gets tough. Things go in ebbs and flows here, so sometimes I have tons of time for my writing, and other times, it’s an obligation I dread.

    Just go with it and everything will work out just fine 🙂

  15. Finding a work/life balance I’m sure is a challenge especially w a little one. He keeps you pretty active I’m sure regardless of what your fitness regimen is. You are doing a great job Kathryn!

  16. tonee78 says:

    I have relieved myself of the pressure to regularly blog for awhile and it does help with balance. I still blog as much as I can, but I have no set schedule. Hope it works well for you.

  17. Janelle @ Run With No Regrets says:

    I haven’t been able to blog as much as I would like over the past month, but this year I’ve realized that I would put too much pressure on myself to post so many times a week. Even when I have a post scheduled, sometimes life gets in the way and it ends up delayed. Staying up late or getting up early to blog just isn’t a priority to me anymore. I think the healthy life balance has its ebbs and flows and you’ll find the sweet spot again.

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